admin on February 25th, 2011

The Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa salam was narrated to have gone to His companions on numerous occasions and say “Are any of you finding difficulty in becoming like Abi Damdam?” The companions were surprised, and they asked Rasulallah, And who is Abi Damdam Oh rasulaAllah? So he said, “He is a man if he awoke he said, ‘Oh Allah I have bestowed my honor to you,’” and he would not oppress those who oppressed him, he would not curse those who cursed him, and he would not hit those who hit him.

Abu Damdam was a poor man who did not even have the rizq to give Sadaqah, and for this whenever he woke up, he would state, “Oh Allah, I have given to you my honor as my charity.”

When he used to go out among the people, someone would curse him and he would say, “May Allah forgive you and me”. Another person would talk about Abu Damdam, and he would say, “May Allah forgive you.” Another would physically harm him, and he would say, May Allah forgive you And in this way Abu Damdam would be forgiving of the people. His charity was given via his honor solely for the sake of Allah and solely for the sake of pleasing Allah.

Ibn Al Qayyim may Allah be pleased with him said, Al Jood (Generosity) is ten levels, and from generosity, the first of it is al joodo bin-nafs (generosity of the soul), and from generosity is that of Abu Damdam, when he was generous with his honor.” This is the way he was generous – with his honor.

The Prophet Muhammad was asked, “Who are the best of people, Oh Rasul Allah?” His response was “Every Makhmum al qalb, sadooq al lisan. He did not respond with any worldly qualities. None of the qualities had to do with monetary status or worldly status. So the companions replied, “Oh Rasulallah we know who the truthful of tongue is, but who is makhmumul qalb?” He replied, It is the heart which fears Allah, the pure heart, the heart which contains no sin or hatred or rebellion or envy.

The owner of this heart is indeed the best of people as described by Prophet Muhammad. Pay attention closely here, but also do not take it to mean that acts of worship are not important. Prophet Muhammad here did not say the best of people are those who pray the most, or give the most Zakah, or fast during the day and spend the night in prayer, or perform Hajj frequently, or are making thikr constantly; rather RasulAllah looked at the heart and gave the description of al qalb al makhmum, the heart which does not carry any animosity toward his or her Muslim brother or sister, or carry grudge or envy toward a Muslim brother or sister, or arrogance toward Muslims. This is the best of people, those whose hearts do not wish for revenge or payback when they are hurt by another Muslim, and for this the owner of such a heart makes the following dua for his Muslim brothers and sisters, from the Quran, Oh Allah do not place in our hearts hatred toward those who have believed.

-from  a lecture entitled ‘The Companions’ Hearts’